Therapy and Counseling
Systemic Therapy & Counseling
Problems aren't located in you—they live in patterns. In the space between what you want and what keeps happening. In relationships that once worked but now feel strained.
People arrive when they feel trapped in a tight circle—the same conflicts, the same frustrations, the same limited options repeating endlessly. The ground feels unsteady. You're not sure who you are anymore or which direction to take. What feels possible has shrunk to simply getting through the day.
Therapy expands what feels possible. You begin to see patterns you couldn't see from inside them. Relief comes—not all at once, but steadily. Room opens up where everything felt stuck. Things that felt impossibly tangled become clear. You grow stronger, not despite the difficulty but because of it. You find peace with yourself and rediscover your sense of self-direction, that inner compass you thought you'd lost.
Systemic therapy recognizes that you're the expert on your life. My role is to offer challenge and compassion in equal measure—to identify what's really happening beneath the surface and to activate resources you didn't know you had.
This isn't about pathology. It's about expanding what's possible.
Therapy should offer relief and change or it's not worth your time.
My goal is to make myself redundant as quickly as possible while ensuring the changes that matter actually stick.
Couple Therapy & Sex Therapy
"The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives." —Esther Perel
Relationships don't fail because people stop loving each other. They fail because we don't know how to navigate the distance that naturally grows, the desires that diverge, the versions of ourselves we're becoming.
Couples arrive when what feels possible between them has shrunk—when the initial spark has given way to alienation, when closeness feels impossible, when conflict has replaced conversation, when you're questioning whether this can work or what "working" even means anymore.
The work expands what's possible between you. You begin to see each other—and the relationship itself—differently. Relief comes when habitual patterns loosen their grip. Space opens up where everything felt tight. Aliveness returns. You don't just resolve conflicts; you develop the capacity to navigate difference. You find each other again, or you find yourself.
Systemic couple therapy examines not what's wrong with either partner, but what's happening between you. We work with the dynamics that create distance, the patterns that keep you stuck, the unexpressed needs that breed resentment.
Systemic sex therapy addresses what many couples won't say out loud: sexual lulls, mismatched desire, fantasies that feel forbidden, affairs that shattered trust, or simply the sense that vitality has left your intimate life. Sexuality changes across a lifetime—and can be reshaped with honesty and support.
Individual counseling is also available if you're navigating relationship dissatisfaction, painful separations, questions of sexual orientation or gender identity, or simply want to understand your own patterns better before choosing your next relationship.
The goal isn't just resolution—it's aliveness. Vitality. The expanded capacity to love and be loved.
Trauma Therapy
Some experiences shatter the ground beneath us. When coping strategies fail and the world feels fundamentally unsafe, trauma lodges itself not just in memory but in your body, your sleep, your future.
In trauma's aftermath, what feels possible collapses. You might experience anxiety, nightmares, or memory gaps. You might avoid anything connected to what happened. The future feels narrowed to a pinpoint. Your body holds tension you can't release. You're surviving, not living.
Trauma therapy creates the safe framework to expand what feels possible again. Relief comes as you stabilize. Space opens up in your body, in your breath, in your days. You process what felt unbearable. You rebuild trust—in yourself, in your body, in the possibility of a livable future. You see ahead of yourself again.
The transformation is profound: From surviving to reviving. From fragmentation to wholeness. You don't just "get over it"—you integrate it, grow from it, and reclaim your sense of self-direction. You find what sustains you from the inside when everything external falls away. You become, surprisingly, stronger. You discover an expanded capacity to be in the world.
Clinical Hypnotherapy
When conscious effort isn't enough—when you know what you want to change but can't seem to do it—hypnotherapy accesses the deeper wisdom beneath rational thought.
Through focused attention and guided imagery, we work with unconscious processes that hold both the resistance to change and the resources for transformation. This isn't about control—it's about accessing your own intuition, mobilizing self-healing, and creating new pathways where old patterns once ruled.
If you have any questions, please get in touch with me.
saskia.eschenbacher@posteo.de